EXPOSED TO VIOLENCE
Whether we admit it or not, we live in a violent so-ciety and it comes in many forms.
Many are shocked by the increasing conflict in our streets, in our schools and in the home. People from all walks of life and circumstances are either exposed to or participate in violence be it physical or intangible.
Today, Faith in Families received a story from an affiliated personality (whose name we shall not disclose) who was victim of a recent mugging incident. This is what was related to us:
“How ironic, that Faith in Families are talking about violence and I get gang-bashed last night by 2 girls on the streets of my place of living? What kind of violence is that called and where do I get the I-got-gang-bashed help and support?
Where is the help for your-son-is-ngati-turi help or your-sister-is-crazy help? Or where is the [name withheld]-is-crazy help because she-is-stressed-out help and depressed and post-natal depressed but none help you the way you need it except your family or a real nice person who is there to help when you need them?
How can I get to them without the red tape of service providers and their people who they hire to help me? Good or bad? Right or wrong? black or white? Man or woman? I have a place, so does everyone who has dreams? Why do I not get a chance to do what I want to do with me and my babies without harsh judgment or people who really don’t help but end up hurting you more than getting a hidding from some randoms just because you had faith that walking home from a good night out wasn’t a bad idea.
Your thoughts would be appreciated leave me a message on FB Aro Ha Mamaku if it ain’t too truthful for you to handle? …”
A NOVEL SOLUTION
‘Kosmic Karen’ relates a story in a video below under that pseudonym about a woman who came up with a novel solution that prevented herself from being mugged that was resolved nonviolently in this one instance.
(Watch other stories by clicking on the smaller photo panels on the screen above)
SILENT ANGER, SILENT FURY
Negative energy, which can be expressed as silent anger, is a form of violence with an inherent power to do more harm. Unexpressed anger, if allowed to grow into fury, has the power to destroy. But, have you ever noticed how many words that start with the prefix “co-”, such as ‘community’, ‘cooperation’, ‘com-munication’, ‘compassion’, ‘combine’, ‘common’, ‘consensus’, ‘committee’, etc. – all have meanings which, not coincidentally, happen to involve doing things with others: to live with others, to work together with others, to talk with others and act together on solutions to common issues?
Participation, being inclusive, building capacity, encouraging local decision-making, meeting priorities of local community and building the individual’s self-esteem and skills that benefit the community are what empower people in a community setting.
But rather than bringing people together based on common issues like neigh-bourhood muggings and street violence – as is the case in example here, broader-based organising instead identifies and harnesses common values and relationships that become the glue which holds communities and families in those communities together. That’s a potentially powerful force for action and change.
Faith in Families supports activities in communities whose members come together to organise themselves to reduce the level of unresolved conflict in their lives and the lives of those around them through the power of communi-cations.
If you have a story or happen to know about a YouTube or other video that include stories from other communities which have the power to transform and de-escalate harmful conflict situations, please let us know.